I was trapped!
It was a Saturday. I was at St. Michael Retreat House in Antipolo facilitating a recollection for the kids of Virlanie Foundation, an NGO based in Manila that help street kids.
It was a whole-day affair and I finished at around 5:30 in the afternoon. I took a tricycle from the retreat house to Antipolo Church (The Shrine of the Our lady of Peace and Good Voyage) not knowing that on that particular Saturday the people of Antipolo were celebrating the “TipuloFestival.”
There was a long line of merry-makers. Starting with a parade of different bands and then a procession of street dancers, dancing to the usual native Fiesta tunes. It was a very fun event actually and it was my first time to have witnessed the Festival. I was fortunate nevertheless, since this was only the 2nd TipuloFestival.
The only cap sizing experience brought by this event was the traffic jam and the absence of all probable means of public transportation. I got out of there by chance and after all the activities are over.
At least, all the trouble was caused by a legitimate town event and not by some politician trying to buy some votes over an egoistic public display of affection (Miting de Avance).
A man making crafts from old plastic softdrink bottles and selling it to tourists and passers-by at the Manila Bay Walk area
A road-side Bush Fire along the NLEX
Taken last March 21 on our way to Zambales near the Pulilan Exit of the North Luzon Expressway, Philippines.. accidents happen during fires like this because of the highway’s zero visibility and often it starts with a single cigarette butt thrown on the road side.
Amateur Surfers practicing on the waves of Iba Zambales
“Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.”
Be aware of the fact that not everything is as simple as black and white – and that there are many shades of grey. Leaders must realize that each situation is not necessarily summed up as right or wrong, perhaps it’s just different than what they are used to.
(Communication) To effectively communicate with others is a critical part of leadership development. Everyone is given two ears and only one mouth so they might listen twice as much as they speak! Listening effectively is the key to good communication.
(Team Work) Working well with others is another highly important skill for leaders. Getting more accomplished as a team in less time, rather than simply doing it alone.
“Give and Take”
(Negotiation/Compromise) Through the process of working in teams, leaders learn the art of give and take. Compromising in certain areas to ensure that the task is completed, and with all parties pleased with the outcome.
“Step by Step”
(Planning) A large task can be overwhelming. However, Breaking down a task into smaller, bite-sized pieces will build more self confidence and provide a clearer vision for success.
“See and Dream”
(Vision/Goal Setting) A leader who can see their outcome clearly is more likely to achieve success.
(Persistence/Determination/Commitment) Every failure should be viewed as one more step towards success.
Prioritization Guide #1: People over Things
In a materialistic world – we put so much effort and so much time in acquiring so many things that do not amount much when we’re dead. This is a reminder to all of us that a single person’s life (however rich or poor) is worth more than all the material things you could get in this world even in several lifetime. Put more effort and time in gaining the trust and confidence of people than wasting it on cars, jewelries, etc. Help people grow and be an instrument for making the lives of others more livable.
Prioritization Guide #2: Relationships over Work
Hard times requires more sacrifices and relationships usually takes the fall. But this shouldn’t be the case. Again, it’s a matter of prioritization. Sometimes we overly justify our need to make a living, to make a career, to make our dreams come true with the expense of losing sight of the real things that matter. Family, friends and God. There is always a choice and what you choose either breaks you or make you. Work is essential but so are relationships. Strike a balance. Learn the art of compensating for limited time. Be efficient. Remember, your work or career, can and will not be able to take the place of true and lasting relationships.
Prioritization Guide #3: Health over Pleasure
Logically speaking this is the correct order but most of us tend to forget. Like the saying goes: “time flies.. when you’re having so much fun.” - so is our time to have fun. Be mindful of what you eat and what you do. Not all things that are fun and deeply satisfying are good for us. Too much of anything is just not good for our body and even our soul, even the things that are initially good for us tend to have some sort of side effects when taken or done excessively. Live life in moderation and you’ll have more pleasure out of life that way.
Prioritization Guide #4: Doing The Right Things over Doing Things Right
These two are both essential: Do things right and do the right things. But one has to prioritize doing the right things first over doing it right to make whatever it is you’re doing right more meaningful and rewarding. A gangster or a corrupt politician can do things right, more efficiently and effectively than any other people but are they doing the right things. Are they being fair, being honest or moral? There is more dignity in being clumsy but right than being efficiently wrong all the time.
“There are no secrets to success! It is just you doing the things you know you should do and avoiding the things you shouldn’t do.”
Success is personal. Your definition of success can be and will be different from other people’s. You must, therefore, have an end in mind. Find out first where you are now, who you are now, and what roles are you playing as of this moment. And then, search your heart to find out where do you really want to be and the roles you dream to play.
Success is not only the achievement of an ultimate goal, it is the moving forward. It is conquering the gravity that pulls your feet down to make every step. It is the inches, the minutes, the hours, the months and the years that adds up to a fulfilling life.
Success is made up of many tiny successes which spawned mostly from the courage to meeting failures face to face without being defeated.
Success is also discovering your best talents, skills, and abilities and applying them where they will make the most effective contribution to your own growth as an individual and to the growth of others.
“Doing what you do well and doing well whatever you do.” – Longfellow
Success is not limited to any one area of your life. It encompasses all the facets of your relationships.
Success is harnessing your heart to a task you love. It is focusing the full power of all you are on what you desire to achieve.
Success is in each one of us waiting to be realized.